On not eating meat…and not preaching about it

Hi, my name’s Emily and I am a pescetarian. “A WHAT?” you ask (and many people do). It’s not a well known word, and so it’s usually just easier to call myself a vegetarian, but I tend to say I don’t eat meat, as I do eat fish – so I’m not technically a vegetarian.


I stopped eating meat when I was ten, because I didn’t like the idea of animals being killed or eating them, and I’ve never looked back since (17 years, in case you were wondering).

It’s not easy being a pescy. Not only do you get judged by vegetarians for eating fish, you often get judged by non-veggies, too. “Do you not think fish have feelings?” is just one of the questions I’ve been asked before. Because of this, I always feel the need to explain myself (even though I know I shouldn’t have to), so if you must know: I always intended to give fish up too, however I’m not the biggest fan of either cheese or eggs, which makes getting enough protein difficult. In the end I just never gave it up, because I also realised I’d miss it too much – I adore smoked salmon, prawns (and fish finger sandwiches, of course) and don’t think I’d do well without them. I’d miss fish in a way I don’t miss meat – there are a LOT of good meat alternatives, but not many fish ones. So, that’s why I am a pescetarian. I don’t think eating fish is any more okay than eating meat, and I don’t eat it all that often – and when I do, I always try to ensure it’s reliably sourced, too (although unfortunately that’s not always possible).

I don’t miss meat – like I said, there are so many options out there these days for non-meat eaters. I never disliked meat, and I’d be lying if I didn’t say I got the odd craving for something or other, but it’s never uncontrollable (funnily enough, many say bacon is what cracks most veggies, but I never liked it in the first place). Also, whenever I have got the odd craving for meat, I’ve always randomly seen something horrible about animal cruelty within the next few days that cements my beliefs and determination not to eat it.

There’s a view that most non-meaters are judgemental and preachy, mostly thanks to a minority that can’t be in the same room as meat, lecture others and generally give the rest of us a bad name – and unfortunately mean there are a lot of clichés around. Really, most of us aren’t that bad – I don’t care what others eat; it’s their choice what goes into their body, much like it’s my choice what goes into mine. However, the same non-judgemental attitude should be extended to us non-meat eaters – the amount of people that question my dietary choices is incredible. I don’t ask you why you eat meat, so why is it okay to ask me why I don’t?

The thing with preachy veggies is that the more you tell someone not to do something, often it makes them want to do it more. Preaching isn’t the right way of going about spreading your views; education is. So many people don’t even think about where their meat is coming from (look at the reaction to the horse meat scandal in 2013, for example). If more people did, the world would be a better place.

Basically, I eat what I want and don’t judge others for eating what they want. I just wish they’d extend the same courtesy to me, and hope they make educated, informed decisions about their diet – whatever it happens to be.





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12 months of motherhood


Dear Fe-liners, over the last 12 months I have been writing a lot about becoming a Mum for the first time, how I felt when he was born, how it has changed my relationship with my own Mumhow I felt at 6 months, how it has changed me as a person, how I feel about mother shaming. So last week, little Frank celebrated his first birthday, so how do I feel one year on?

I have written a lot less about motherhood in the last 6 months compared to the first 6 months, this is because in many ways it has just become life, it doesn’t feel new any more, I am a Mum. Also in the last 6 months it has been harder to find the time to write, once Frankie started moving, there haven’t been so many quiet moments to sit and write. I have also got a little addicted to The Good Wife and sometimes I am so tired after a day of chasing a one year that an episode of The Good Wife is about all I can manage.

The last 6 months have definitely been physically harder, but in many ways I have found it so much more rewarding. It has been amazing to watch Frank grow from baby to boy. He can walk now, he can communicate with me and he responds and understands to what I say. His personality is so strong, he likes to make people laugh, he plays to an audience and he strops like a diva.

Personally for myself, I am in a really good place, I have a nice balance between work, looking after Frankie and seeing my friends. Finding good child care has been one of the most important things for me. Frank is looked after his Nanna three days a week. I am really lucky to have this arrangement, his Nanna loves him in the same way I do and I feel like I can work without having to worry as I know that he is in the best hands. He is building a really strong relationship with her, a relationship I think will be so important as he grows up.

The one massive thing that isn’t right with me at the moment, is my post baby body. It is a long way from the fit runner I once was and I am finding it hard to get it back to the way it was. Someone asked me why? It’s really because of a lack of time, less disposable income to spend on gym membership and also motivation, I feel like I have a massive mountain to climb. I think this might might be another blog, getting fit on a budget with little time to spare.

But back to motherhood, I have to say out of all my achievements, it is on the top of my list every time. Look at him, how could he not be?


Love and motherhood,